(10:11)Steve : You mentioned a court order for paternity, I just wanted to know if you had some way that I could actually get such a document to you.

To which began my reply in a text message

(9:32)Steve : I want to be your friend on facebook because at least that way i'll be able to see pictures of my daughter and know that she is ok.

(9:37)Jenn : You could just call and ask. Instead of just showing up out of the blue online when you feel like trying to play daddy. Michelle is fine and surrounded by family and friends that love and care for her.

(9:40)Steve : No I can't because the last few attempts I have made to contact you have been ignored. It's not a 'feel like playing daddy' thing. Btw, you should get your story straight with the people you talked to, because when they start talking to eachother about it they get kinda lost.
When I made this comment, I made it because her playing daddy comment is similar to a conversation she had with someone else whom she told I never talked to.

(9:48)Jenn : Its funny to me that you show up every time you are going through custody stuff with Rebecca. Do you really have an interest in michelle or are you just trying to look good? Because I don't have time for games. You show me you actually care and are going to be and active part of her life. Or leave us alone
Her "showing up" comment is actually in reference to the fact that I called her the day Rebecca left to find out if she had talked to Rebecca. I found out from Hope a few months later that she had been talking to Jenn and it influenced her decision. She and Brian C. had also spent a lot of time talking to Kyle and convincing them of things I didn't do.

(9:53)Steve : Look good? How am I going to look good. I have spent too much time out of her life. I have missed her since before I met her. Was I trying to 'look good' when I had nothing going on in my life and was trying to maintain visitation? Until you decided to freak out over a conversation that you misunderstood.
The statement I made here was a little strange, I implied that I had nothing going on in my life to say that I wasn't overwhelmed by work or by other obligations and that she is what I wanted to devote my free time to.

(10:06)Jenn : Sent his and my replies

(10:09)Jenn : Look. All I want to know is if you actually plan on being a responsible part of michelle's life on a regular basis or if you want to keep playing games. Every six months or every two years won't cut it. Because michelle is the only thing that matters to me.

(10:11)Steve : Yet you never give me that chance.

(10:14)Jenn : You called after two years out of the blue and expected me to make time. At the same time i found out you other babies mom left you. What do you think my first thought was? And this goes part that yet. The same things we discussed before i moved.
Can someone translate what she is trying to say here. She moved after she had allowed me visitation years after she kicked me out of our apartment. What we discussed right before that was the fact that I still loved her and wished I didn't. I can only figure that she assumed that I meant I wanted to get back together in a relationship with her, since what she said after that was directly offensive to me.

(11:28)Steve : Actually I had been putting together a savings account so I could pay a lawyer to start a custody battle. When I took in Rebecca I had to use that savings money during te following holiday season when she was fired. I then rebegan that saving process. When she left I had assumed you had a hand in it, as you seem to have contact with all sorts of people and tell them strange things about me. Things I don't even know about me.
This was a hodge-podge of thoughts I was trying to get here to understand where I had been the last two years and then I got overwhelmed when I brought up her leaving, because when Rebecca left it had near bankrupted me trying to pay for living in a place I couldn't really afford.

(11:33)Jenn : I am done. You keep dancing the point and i am done. When you grow up and are done playing games, send me a court order for paternity and we will talk.

(11:38)Steve : Done with what? Don't you have to start something to finish it? Don't you have to actually extend a hand before you retract it.

I have yet to understand what done is really supposed to mean here, but I know that it meant that she would decline the request and not respond again. On a positive note she does imply that she will accept a paternity test, so there may be a light at the end of this tunnel now. It's just too bad I can't figure out where she lives.